Same-Sex Marriage: What should a Christians response be?
If you are not aware the Supreme Court of the United States passed a law requiring all states to recognize and perform same-sex marriages. When I heard the news I was grieved and saddened. It is concerning to see how quickly our nation is adopting cultural norms that are clearly unbiblical.
When news of this magnitude is heard it solicits a myriad of responses. In this blog post, I have listed some typical responses, and how to respond biblically.
The Sympathetic Response
To a person—Christian or not—who is an integral, loving part of the world, gay marriage almost makes sense. “God is the god of love,” people say. “If two people love each other, they should be allowed to show it.” It’s especially difficult when circumstantial evidence brought about by personal observation seems to contradict the Bible. In other words, we want our friends to be happy.
This is the dilemma for some Christians regarding gay marriage: do we agree with what God says or follow the wisdom of the world? First Corinthians 1:18-20 says:
For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God. For it is written, I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and will bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent. Where is the wise? where is the scribe? where is the disputer of this world? hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world?
The passage relates to the issue of gay marriage on two levels. The wisdom and logic of the world may very well indicate that gay marriage is a basic right. But no one who is learned in the Bible can honestly say that the Bible supports homosexual relationships. That “wisdom of the world” may lever its way in and lead some to agree to a twisted interpretation, but the Bible cannot be read by sentiment, fear, selfishness, or foolishness.
The passage also shows how gay marriage relates to the cross. The wisdom of the world will say that the cross is not enough for a person with same-sex attractions. It will say a physical relationship or the right to marry should also be an option for a fulfilled life. As the serpent told Eve—God is holding out by not allowing you to experience what you should.
This misrepresents the person of Jesus and His power to save. Christ not only saves eternally, but provide freedom and grace in this life. Jesus was clear about Christians who deceive the naïve about sin: “And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.” (Mark 9:42). Condoning sin and supporting a lifestyle of sin pushes the lost away from the saving grace of Jesus.
The Political Response
Many Christians, are not encumbered with sympathetic feelings regarding homosexual behavior. The issue is not so much the feelings of their friends or family, but living with the shifts in societal norms. The move to normalize homosexuality by legally recognizing same-sex marriage is now a part of our nation. How should Christians respond?
We must realize that the wellspring of morality is not found in a Supreme Court room, but from the pages of Scripture. Moral laws come from God and not a judge. If God says it is morally wrong, then it is sinful. Verdicts from God’s courtroom always trump verdicts from man’s courtrooms.
We must stand for truth, morality, and the gospel. That is what Christ has called us to do in Philippians 2:15 “That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;”
Christians should respond to this decision by standing against it, and if given an opportunity voting against it.
The Spiritual Response
God already told us in His Word that as the end times draw near, society will turn against Him. Homosexuality is a result of the rejection of God (Romans 1:21-25). Gay marriage is the institutionalization of the rejection of God. None of this should be a surprise for those who know the Scriptures. It is good and right to encourage the governing authorities to discourage sin. It is not good to become alarmist. Perhaps gay marriage does herald the end of the world, but an event like this should awaken Christians to the fact that the Gospel is the only hope for humanity!
The Personal Response
Pray for those caught in homosexuality. Be kind (1 Corinthians 13:4). Show Jesus’ love (Ephesians 4:15). Bring them to a saving faith in Christ. Let Jesus guide you as to how to confront (Galatians 6:1). Don’t be hateful; don’t be a bully. Live in that place where Jesus loves and kneels down and provides healing and then says, “Go and sin no more.” It is loving to be kind and patient, but it is also loving to encourage someone toward holiness.
The Bible teaches how Christians should respond to gay marriage. Don’t condone it; no matter how much we may love our friends and want to see them happy, real love is bringing them to a saving relationship with Jesus, not encouraging a sinful lifestyle. Do vote against it; those who live in a republic should use their rights to encourage the government to promote healthy behavior. Recognize what’s really going on; our fight is not against flesh and blood, and if we expect the world to see things from a biblical point of view (John 15:18-19), we’re just going to get a concussion from banging our heads against the wall. Battle for hearts, not causes; love is characterized by both truth and kindness, and it will take both to lead others to the relationship that saves.
-Pastor Erik Sanders